Scott A. Wilburn
PHP/MySQL programmer in the Pacific Northwest
Posts tagged gay
Finding the “Healthy” Gay Community
May 14th
It has been almost ten years since I came out as a gay man. Since then I have had a small handful of relationships with the longest lasting just nine months. As I continue my quest for comanionship and the possibility of being in a committed relationship, I ask the same question: Where can I meet guys who are healthy members of the gay community? I should clarify what I mean by “healthy”. This is not just simply people who are physically healthy, but emotionally healthy as well.
Unfortunately, there continues to be a lot of unhealthy and self-destructive behavior in the gay community, even in a gay-friendly city like Seattle. Substance abuse, risky sexual activity and unresolved emotional issues are all too commonplace. Gay bars and the online community (such as gay.com and Manhunt) have not proven to be very good sources for making promising connections for friendship or romance. Social and activity groups do exist in the Seattle area and I have met some friendly people… but even in those circles there is unhealthy behavior which goes on.
So where do I go to seek out connections which could increase the possibility of finding a life partner who is emotionally healthy? That’s a good question.
Business who support Marriage Equality in California
Nov 5th
With the defeat of Proposition 8, homophobia trumps marriage equality in California. It’s a big defeat those of us in the LGBT community, but we must move forward and acknowledge the supporters of marriage equality. I think it’s also important to share some of the big company names who contributed to the No on Prop 8 campaign and send our business their way:
I know there are other businesses and individuals who contributed to the No on Prop 8 campaign and they deserve to be acknowledged for their efforts as well.
Obama Wins, Marriage Equality Loses
Nov 5th
The end of an era has finally arrived after eight years of failed Bush policies. In just a couple short months, we will soon be free of dealing with W and welcome a Democratically controlled congress and white house… and it’s about time.
I say, “Welcome to the White House, President Obama”.
In California, the gay community has been dealt a hard blow with no thanks to the Mormon Church. Proposition 8 has passed and gay and lesbian couples will no longer be able to marry. The largest contributor to the Yes on Prop. 8 campaign, if you follow the trail of dirty money, is the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints in Salt Lake City, Utah. (Yes, that would be the same city I visited in June, 2007, where I walked around Temple Square with a big cup of Starbucks Coffee). Dan Savage at The Stranger posted a very interesting letter with a suggested response to the California vote.
Read it here
